You are very accomplished

Think about what you have invested and accomplished in education and work, in relationships, friendships, and family life, in yourself. Amazing in many ways, and yet …

Zen-ish Coaching Can Help

Strange and paradoxical isn't it? There is so much that's good in you, but that thing throws you so off-balance.

It might be something you can clearly identify, or vaguely identify, or not identify at all. It might seem huge or tiny on its face, but its impact is big, which is why it's on your mind. What it has done to you, and is doing to you now, matters.

Zen is very interested in the present moment. Do you want to wait a little longer, or is the present moment, now, the right moment for you to begin being freer, more able? You want the problem gone, but taking it on is oddly scary, isn't it?

Nothing provides immunity from life's distress and disarray. You will have plenty of them. Since you can't have immunity, you have to have resilience and resourcefulness, confidence and creativity. I can help you apply Zen-ish ideas and skills that reduce the pain, and enable you to respond in ways that are well-aligned with your values and objectives, even if you are not sure what those are right now.

Challenges will still come. But less often, and with less intensity. You will navigate to better resolutions. You will operate with more self-confidence, and feel more calm and peace even when you are in the midst of life's muddy waters. Would you like to start moving in that direction right now? Does it make sense to not start now?

Whatever currently pains you, you are here now, looking at this website, wondering if this is a place where you can get the help you need. Choose a book or a booking to find out:

How Zen-ish Coaching Works

What is coaching? What actually happens across a series of coaching sessions? The answers to these questions vary from one coach to another, so these are excellent questions.

Most of us find it useful to speak with someone who can help us see our own blind spots, and bring in ideas and techniques that enlarge our perspective and choices. If we work together, it will be my objective to do that for you. Here is the step-by-step outline:

1. We will clearly define what you want to be true in the near future that is not true today. Examples: "I want to be able to talk about <x> with my child, spouse, parent, partner, employer," or "I need to make powerful, persuasive presentations at work with more confidence," or "I don't want to be so anxious so much of the time," or "I need help grieving this loss," or …
2. We will identify the top three things that have to be different to significantly improve the chances of achieving what you defined in Step 1. Examples: gain clarity, confidence, and practice on what you want to communicate in a challenging conversation, identify key talking points and practice presenting them, meditate daily and learn one or more quick anxiety-stopping techniques, reduce the fear of being overwhelmed so you can fully feel and process your grief.
3. We will come up with specific actions you can and will actually take in the next two to three months to make those things happen. You only control yourself, and no one else, so we will only identify things you can do, not things you need other people to do. For example, you cannot take the action, "Get Tom to stop doing <x>," but you can take the action, "Speak with Tom about the impact of him doing <x>, and try to get his agreement to do <y> instead." We will identify specific things you can say and do to make your desired outcome likely.
4. We will put together all of the actions you identified in Step 3, assess if you can accomplish them all in the next two or three months. If not, further decompose things until each objective is realistically achievable and contributes to the larger goal. If it doesn't all fit into the next two or three months, we will identify what will so you can get that part done.
5. You will prepare and practice as needed.
6. You will try out new approaches in real life.
7. You will evaluate how that is going, adjust your plan as needed, and continue with as much independence or assistance as you want as you move along.

If this sounds good to you, book a free introductory session.